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Trish Haight

Deceptive Sexuality & Trauma (DST)

A Pathway from Shattering to Sacred Becoming.

For over 16 years, I have walked with individuals and relationships through the darkest traumatic experiences of discovering a “Secret Sexual Basement,” a hidden life of deceptive sexuality and integrity abuse that fractures trust, identity, and the very fabric of reality.

Begin Your Reclamation

“Healing is human, not just clinical. It is about reclaiming your right to exist, to feel, and to desire.”

The Threshold

When Your World Fragments

When a partner’s secret sexual world is exposed, everything you thought you knew explodes. This is not only screaming heartbreak—it is a horrific shattering of your sense of reality itself.

The Secret Sexual Basement

The Minwalla Model

Imagine your relationship as a home you believed was one you shared as sacred, with a person who vowed love, safety, protection, and commitment. But, beneath the surface existed a hidden basement a secret space layered with deception and compartmentalization, a sexual and relational reality being lived without your knowledge or consent. This powerful metaphor, originated by Dr. Omar Minwalla, helps name the profound violation of trust and choice. It is terrifying when a person collides with this reality of discovering a person’s hidden sexual world and the inability to make complete sense of yourself, the person who harmed you, and the life you were living above it.

Integrity Abuse

The Lock on the Basement Door

Abusive behaviors and tactics such as gaslighting, blame-shifting, twisting the narrative, and manipulation are often used to keep the basement hidden. These harmful relational patterns are kept alive so as not to have the duplicitous life discovered, creating a cycle of self-preservation, identity protection, and fantasy attachment. Integrity Abuse patterns of deception are extremely destructive and create confusion and self-doubt for the intimate partner impacted. The lock keeps the secret sealed and it remains in a covert abuse phase. The victim lives unknowingly above the roaring hum of high octane, where it burns away trust and choice, eroding their sense of self and relationship.

Abuse Victim Trauma (AVT)

You Are Not Crazy

AVT names what happens to a person as a result of living with deceptive sexuality. Symptoms such as hypervigilance, fragmentation, and deep anguish and grief are not signs of weakness or overreaction. They are normal responses to the cracking open someone feels when there is a traumatic psychological injury. You are not crazy, overreacting, and/or too sensitive. You are deeply injured, cannot recognize yourself and your life, and have no landing point of safety.

Structural Injury

Beyond Behavior Change

Deep healing requires more than modifying behavior or applying bandages to wounds. It demands clearing the pain and suffering by moving through it, taking the time to unearth the stories from deep within, metabolizing the enormity of what happened, coming back into alignment, rebuilding a sense of self, and creating a foundation of integrity—where there is a coherent story of thoughts, words, and actions syncing up with truth.

From this Place of Understanding, We Begin the Journey of Reclamation—Moving from Shattering toward Sacred Becoming.

The Path Forward

The Five Stages Towards Reclamation

Based on Minwalla Model’s The Five Stages of Deceptive Sexuality Trauma Treatment

Healing is not linear, but there are recognizable stages on the journey from shattering to sacred becoming. Each stage builds upon the last, creating a pathway toward wholeness.

The first stage is about landing in a sacred and safe-enough container that shines the light on truth. The conscious tone is humility, deep listening, and empathic witnessing. We begin to name the enormity of what has happened: the Secret Sexual Basement, the Integrity Abuse that kept it hidden, and the Abuse Victim Trauma (AVT) that resulted in devastating impacts. By giving words and weight to it all, it can help you to slow down, land more in connection with yourself, and catch your breath…even if for a moment.

  • Acknowledging the Secret Sexual Basement—the hidden life that shattered your reality
  • Understanding Integrity Abuse: the gaslighting, blame-shifting, and manipulation
  • Recognizing AVT symptoms as normal responses to injury, not personal failure
  • Beginning to trust your own perceptions again

"I am not crazy, over-reacting, and/or too sensitive. I am deeply injured, cannot recognize myself and my life, and have no landing point of safety."

This stage is focused on stabilization and building resilience. It is about restoring your sacred and protective "breathable skin" around the rawness of you. We honor your truth as it continues to open along with the emotional impact as it moves. This stage marks moments of reconnecting back to your center and finding ways to do that when the triggers and survival responses ignite and drag you around. Restoring is about creating internal and external spaciousness so you can bring body and mind back into interrelatedness and encourage a state of flow.

  • Restoring your sacred and protective "breathable skin"
  • Reconnecting back to your center when triggers arise
  • Creating internal and external spaciousness
  • Bringing body and mind back into interrelatedness

"I deserve protection and stability, honoring my path to come back to the center of me and my wholeness."

This stage is full of movement and has a rhythm of clearing and sorting at the deepest innermost self. There is depth of processing that unearths the stored memories and impacts. We tap into and explore the "Deceptive Sexuality Trauma-22 Rooms of Impact"—every area of your life affected by the critical injuries and ripple effects. With care and tenderness, we lift out those things that haunt you, along with freeing your nervous system stories that have you in global high intensity activation.

  • Exploring the DST-22 Rooms of Impact
  • Unearthing stored memories and processing impacts
  • Freeing nervous system stories from high intensity activation
  • Experiencing deep shifts that connect you to your exquisite aliveness

"My emotions are sacred. I let them move through me. I honor my forward rhythm of metabolization, reforming, transforming, and rising."

This stage is about wholeness and evolution of worth and value. This is about deepening our coherent story, where our thoughts, words, and actions align. We do not arrive here as a destination but as an ongoing refinement of our innermost self and the expression of it. We reclaim the precious Triadic Core—physical body, gender, sexuality (Minwalla Model). This is about embracing your rite to exist, to feel, and to desire—moving from the old story of victimization and into the new story of There I Am…Becoming.

  • Deepening your coherent story where thoughts, words, and actions align
  • Reclaiming the precious Triadic Core: physical body, gender, sexuality
  • Embracing your rite to exist, to feel, and to desire
  • Moving from victimization into "There I Am…Becoming"

"I am becoming who I was always meant to be. I am in forward motion and allowing the evolution of me. I am blooming my value and worth, honoring my rite of expansion and emancipation from suffering."

This stage extends beyond individual healing. Here, you stand embodied in truth. Your vibrant life force is expressing a beautiful soul song, reminding you that you are in rhythm with you again. There is a strength and a sense of empowerment that carries you forward, reconnecting you with others at a deeper level, and potentially igniting hope in fellow travelers on this path. This stage is when we feel that magnificent spark, and it lights the path forward.

  • Standing embodied in truth with your vibrant life force
  • Reconnecting with others at a deeper level
  • Igniting hope in fellow travelers on this path
  • Feeling that magnificent spark that lights the path forward

"I am in rhythm with myself again. My life force lights my path forward and liberates me. This spark in me reaches others so they can have hope for truth and freedom."

Ways to Come Together

Your Pathway to Reclamation

There are different entry points to this sacred work. Explore the options below to find the approach that resonates with where you are in your journey.

For Women

"Here I Am Becoming" Intensives

Deep, focused healing process designed specifically for women navigating the aftermath of Deceptive Sexuality Trauma. These intensives provide concentrated time and space for profound transformation through the Five Stages Toward Reclamation.

  • Personalized journey through the stages
  • Trauma Healing & Deceptive Sexuality and Trauma, Minwalla Model
  • Sacred holding environment
  • Metabolization, integration, and embodiment processing
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Group Experience

Sacred Sister Cocoon

A nurturing community space where women healing from DST come together in a sacred empathic witnessing experience. The cocoon provides the “We Spark” of connection—knowing you are not alone on this journey of becoming.

  • Community of other women on similar healing paths
  • Shared witnessing and validation
  • Group healing practices
  • Connection and liberation
Explore This Path

First Step

Initial Consultation

Begin with a conversation to explore where you are on your path of healing and what form of support might serve you best. This is a space to be heard, validated, and to discern your next right step.

  • Understanding your unique situation
  • Assessment of current needs
  • Exploration of healing options
  • Personalized recommendations
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Why This Methodology?

This therapeutic work and illumination process is grounded in the Minwalla Model of Integrity, Intimacy, and Integration. We don’t just apply bandages—we clear the pain and suffering, rebuild the wounded self into wholeness, and create a foundation where thoughts, words, and actions align with truth. This is deep healing for deep injury.

Ways to Come Together

Begin Your Reclamation

Whether you are seeking clarity on Deceptive Sexuality, navigating the aftermath of Integrity Abuse, or ready to enter the Sacred Sister Cocoon, you do not have to walk this path alone.

Reach out to begin a conversation about where you are and what form of support might serve your journey toward becoming.

"From shattering to sacred becoming."

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8-DAY INTENSIVE PARTICIPANT

Trish was recommended to me by my spouse’s CSAT, who felt I would benefit from her Intensive Program/Sister Cocoon Intensive. It took me some time to decide whether I was ready, but attending the program turned out to be the best decision I’ve made for myself as a betrayed partner in deep emotional pain, grief, and despair.

D-Day was 12/23/24, and the rollercoaster of staggered and trickle truths about my spouse’s infidelity left my mind spinning. When I learned early this summer that my spouse still hadn’t fully disclosed, it sent me into rage, confusion, and profound hurt. I realized I needed a program that could help me understand the trauma I was experiencing—years of emotional damage from his secret life—and guide me toward healing.

I have spent 49 years of my life being betrayed and deceived, and now struggle with depression, anxiety, and PTSD. Although my spouse and I were in marriage therapy and both had individual therapists, none of our therapy addressed betrayal trauma, recovery, or the grief I was living through. The focus was primarily on his sex addiction and communication issues, while my individual therapist, though supportive, was not trained in betrayal trauma.

Trish’s intensive program finally provided what I desperately needed. It allowed me to do the deep work required to process trauma and gave me the education, structure, and support to understand the phases betrayed partners go through. Most importantly, it showed me a path forward—how to begin healing after everything I’ve endured.

From the moment I met Trish on the first day of the Intensive, I felt an immediate and powerful sense of connection. We embraced, and her hugs are truly the best—warm, grounding, and safe. The way she welcomed me and my Cocoon Sisters was incredibly special, and I felt at ease right away. I knew I was ready for the deep work ahead during the 7-day in-person intensive and the 1-day virtual session. Trish created a safe, nurturing space that allowed me to open up and share my emotional pain without fear or hesitation.

Trish took careful notes of each of our stories, honoring our experiences with such attentiveness. We began each day with morning check-ins, and she guided us through special projects designed to help us express and understand our journeys. We created artwork, wrote about our feelings after completing portions of the workbook, and used the materials in the beautifully organized binders she provided—every detail thoughtfully prepared.

Trish supplied everything we needed throughout the live intensive sessions. Her expertise in betrayal trauma was exceptional; she was professional, deeply knowledgeable, and confident in the material she presented. But what touched me most was her empathy and compassion for how broken each of us felt. She encouraged us to comfort and support one another, helping us form a bond of sisterhood during those seven in-person days that was truly beautiful and profound.

Through her guidance, Trish helped us reclaim our power and begin overcoming the immense pain we carried because of betrayal. She taught us how to pause, breathe, reflect, and reclaim our power. Trish shared so many meaningful tools to help us regulate our nervous systems during moments of emotional overwhelm and pain.

Trish provided special activities like drumming and sound baths, and those experiences were truly life-changing for me. Through them, I was able to release so much of the pain I had been carrying. I still cherish those moments of pure delight—feeling happy, free, and connected in a way I hadn’t felt in a very long time.

The beautiful spread of food and drinks that Trish prepared each day was so thoughtful, ensuring we stayed nourished and hydrated throughout the in-person sessions. Her home offered a peaceful, tranquil environment that felt safe and supportive for all of us.

I will be forever grateful to Trish for the experience she created and for the role she played in my healing. I highly recommend Trish and her Intensive Program to any woman navigating the painful and overwhelming journey of betrayal trauma.

8-DAY INTENSIVE PARTICIPANT

The sacred cocoon created by Trish was, and remains, integral to my healing from betrayal trauma and my transformation from victim of betrayal to survivor of betrayal to a woman who can thrive. Trish incorporated many modalities that helped in getting deeply connected with myself and to have more language to understand my past, present, and future. I loved all that we did and talked about– the learnings, the art, the breathwork, the movement; everything was intentional and served to move the trauma from my brain out of my body. What most stood out, though, is the way I was so deeply cared for and seen by Trish. For the first time in many years, I felt completely safe and knew I could trust my cocoon sisters to hold my story and honor and respect me as well.

This trauma intensive is an investment of time, emotions, and finances. And it is well worth it! As Trish says, there is wonderful wisdom and beauty in your heart. It deserves to be honored, particularly after intimate partner betrayal. I hope you absolutely consider working with Trish—it is well worth it!

8-DAY INTENSIVE PARTICIPANT

Stepping into Trish’s 8-day Here I Am Becoming felt like entering a tenderness I didn’t know my body had been starving for. I was held—not just in spirit, but in truth. Seen, heard, reflected and honored back into the woman I’d left behind and betrayal had splintered. Would she ever re-emerge? I often wondered. My husband’s choices had torn a violent seam in my reality, and had become a steady hum, I barely heard in its new normalcy.

Yet, in Trish’s container—in her Sacred Sister Cocoon—along with the other beautiful women who attended, and under her intuitive arms, her steady heart—I sank inward like a soul-diver, retrieving pieces of myself I had abandoned just to keep breathing. I emerged raw but rooted, open but anchored, and carrying tools that let my life move forward with intention instead of survival.

I am the main event now pulses in me like a sacred drum.

I wish every woman cracked open by sexual betrayal or buried in the shadows of secret basements could find Trish, and be met with the truth, safety, and restoration her work so generously offers.

8-DAY INTENSIVE PARTICIPANT

When I found Trish’s Sister Cocoon Intensive, I was seven months past discovery and still drowning. Since February 26th, I had been living in the grip of severe PTSD symptoms—raging, breaking things, wavering between wanting to fight and wanting to disappear entirely. I was tender and raw, taking one step forward and two steps back. The enormity of this betrayal trauma had altered me so completely that I barely recognized myself.

I had been working with therapists and enrolled in other programs, but they weren’t a fit. They didn’t understand this specific type of trauma. I could feel the tornado inside, the overwhelming grief that brought me to my knees, the way trauma had shattered my inner knowing, my world, and left me grasping for solid ground. I needed specialists. I needed immersive care. I needed to be deeply held.

I feel so fortunate to have found Trish and to have engaged in this deep work with her.

Over eight profound days, she created a container of deep emotional safety where I could finally exhale. Her presence and attunement were extraordinary. She tracked every wave of anger and grief with such care, honoring my process and my path through this vortex with thoughtful presence. From the beautiful breakfast and lunch spreads to the smallest details, you could feel the love and intentionality she brings to this sacred work. She and the other women in that room held me exactly as I was—all the million pieces I was in—free of judgment, full of deep validation and respect for my healing journey.

The transformation was cellular. Something ancient and wise within me—something I thought I’d lost—reawakened. I reclaimed my intuitive power, my inner knowing, in a way I had not been able to access before. I learned to breathe through difficult triggers and activations. I discovered I could call out integrity abuse with fierce precision, strength, and groundedness instead of becoming a whirlwind, instead of losing myself in the chaos of lies and trauma. I can disengage before my “altered self” consumes me. I can tend to myself. I can come up for air.

Where I once raged and raged, I now stand in my own knowing. Where I once broke and lost my voice screaming, I now cry and hold myself in my pain. I know I will survive the burning.

I metabolized a great deal at this intensive and made soul sisters along the way. This is deep, profound work that Trish holds with art and profoundly healing care. The healing journey continues, certainly—but because of this intensive, I am much, much stronger for it. It was a phenomenal, deeply transformative experience. If you are navigating the life-shattering terrain of betrayal trauma and need a place to land, to be held, to return to yourself—Sister Cocoon is that place. And Trish is the healer who will hold you through it all.

8-DAY INTENSIVE PARTICIPANT

Affirming. Transformative. Trish’s retreat was exactly what my body and my brain needed to find the truth that I had been harboring throughout this entire traumatic process. Her depth of experience is so vast and her ability to hold space for each of us throughout the week was nothing less than courageous. Trish is an exceptional therapist and I would recommend this workshop to anyone in a similar situation.

8-DAY INTENSIVE PARTICIPANT

Trish is a remarkably warm and knowledgeable woman who will help you move forward. I felt seen not just as a “partner,” but as a human being who is worth listening to and taking seriously.

Trish was willing to name the uncomfortable truths that lingered in my relationship that other well-intentioned/well-educated therapists seemed to avoid, but which kept me in confusion. Those truths were hard to hold in my awareness at all, let alone to try to process through them in a way that wasn’t incapacitating. However, Trish’s approach gave me a way to both access and start moving through the trauma.

I have finally been able to get back to a sense of peace within my body. It is also so much easier to set boundaries that help me preserve this peace as I continue to heal. My partner, friends, and family have commented on noticing these shifts as well.

Before going to this program I felt like I had been emotionally ripped apart and trampled on for years, and I left with the ability to feel whole again. I am now able to connect with parts of myself that had been slowly worn away long before discovery.

This program goes beyond coping skills and helps you tap back into yourself in a way that feels like coming back alive. It’s like some sort of psychological CPR!

Finally, there is something so healing about spending 8 days immersed in this type of treatment with other women who have been through something similar. If the Minwalla Model resonates with you, then this program can help you feel healthier, no matter what is happening with your partner.

Do this program. It is worth it. We have easily spent over 150K over the past 3.5 years on therapy and various intensive programs for couples and for my husband. You need and deserve the clarity that this program can bring. I know it can be hard to justify the expense, but getting healthy for yourself is the best thing that can happen for your family. I only wish I would have done it sooner because it would have ended up saving me a lot of money on less effective treatment! My mom is now always telling me how thankful she is that I did this program because she can tell I am getting back to myself, and that I’m much more present for my kids.

Thank you Trish!!!

6-DAY INTENSIVE PARTICIPANT
I have often heard the advice “a burden shared is halved.”  I actually felt that after being introduced to the safety and compassion of  Trish’s group intensive. She set that tone. The sacredness of each of our experiences found that common, golden thread amongst us, teaching “you are never alone” in the grief and upheaval, or in the laughter and calm, that starts the healing. As our trusted guide, Trish was well-informed, well-scheduled and well- respected. Well done!
8-DAY INTENSIVE PARTICIPANT
I came to Trish a fraction of myself, and a very small one, at that. By the time I met Trish, I had suffered not only the deceptive betrayal of a nearly 20-year marriage, but also a very painful 4 years of treatment trauma, whereby I was blamed and held responsible for my own mistreatment. Finding Trish was a literal lifeline for me. Her incredible strength and powerful passion, coupled with her deep intuition and undeniable know-how quite literally brought me back to life. I have never felt so fully seen, held, cherished and resuscitated. We are not meant to do this work alone. Please, allow yourself the remarkable fortune of being held tight in Trish’s care. She is equal parts education, fortitude and magic.
8-DAY INTENSIVE PARTICIPANT

When I signed up for this experience, I had no idea of what to expect. I have been married for 37 years and was still trying to work on fixing “our” relationship. Discovery was 5 years ago. I read and listened to so many podcasts and I’ve always been carrying so much information in my head but still didn’t feel right and was unable to find words to articulate it. Recently, I finally decided to focus on my own recovery.

This experience allowed me to truly surrender and be taken care of- mind body and spirit. I moved through grief that I’ve carried from the depths of my soul. I feel tangibly different and my husband has witnessed a shift in me. The other women were so beautiful and brave. We developed an incredible vulnerability and openness after experiencing so much shame and confusion. I felt honoured to share this experience together. Get to know each other deeply and watch us all transform and heal together while being seen and held tenderly by Trish.

Firstly we understood the trauma we had been through. The extent and to know we aren’t crazy. We worked through breathing, writing, drawing, painting, sound baths, drumming and sharing our voices. Being a part of the 8-day intensive has completely changed me forever. I am eternally grateful for the thought and care Trish has put into this one-of-a kind-experience. In the end it felt like years of therapy. I feel a clarity I’ve never experienced. A calm existence in a challenging world. I have gained so many skills to carry me forward and given me hope. I am forever indebted to Trish and Dr. Omer Minwalla. Thank you.

8-DAY INTENSIVE PARTICIPANT

Trish distinctly stands alone at the summit of the trauma field. She is authentic, brilliant, gifted, and extremely accepting, wrapped with genuine profound love. Her quick insight and direction fostered an experience that unraveled the true essence of who I am and who I am now becoming. And not just me, but the other women of the Sister Cocoon were truly a sight to be seen. We were safely knitted together, cultivated by Trish’s deep compassion to help us all find true integrity healing. As a result of commonality, the journey never intended, forever friendships formed. We were all empowered by the clarity and language in identifying our traumas. The support has been priceless and validating. One of the most heartwarming tools I will continue to use is dropping into my essence of who I am. I found myself. I reconnected with myself. My true authentic beautiful self. The Sister Cocoon and Trish have imprinted an eternal impact. Thank you, Trish!

6-DAY INTENSIVE PARTICIPANT

I have often heard the advice “a burden shared is halved.” I actually felt that after being introduced to the safety and compassion of Trish’s group intensive. She set that tone. The sacredness of each of our experiences found that common, golden thread amongst us, teaching “you are never alone” in the grief and upheaval, or in the laughter and calm, that starts the healing. As our trusted guide, Trish was well-informed, well-scheduled and well-respected. Well done!

8-DAY INTENSIVE PARTICIPANT
Participating in the 8-day Sacred Sister Cocoon intensive with Trish Haight was a transformative experience that exceeded all my expectations. From the moment I arrived, I was enveloped in a nurturing environment that felt both safe and empowering. Trish’s compassionate guidance and the supportive community of women allowed me to delve deep into my healing journey. Through a blend of therapeutic practices, creative expression, and shared stories, I was able to confront and process my betrayal trauma in ways I never thought possible. The bonds formed during this retreat continue to uplift me, and I carry forward the tools and insights gained with renewed strength and hope. The lengths that Trish went to ensure my extensive dietary restrictions were accommodated each and every day was above and beyond anything I could have imagined. Her ability to make each participant feel seen and heard is a true gift. I wholeheartedly recommend this intensive to anyone seeking profound healing, connection, and a restored sense of self!
8-DAY INTENSIVE PARTICIPANT

I am always working on my “Plan B” – how will I “B OK either way” – whatever my husband decides or doesn’t decide about recovery? How can I grow and not stagnate? How can I love myself and become who I want to be while I wait to see if his openness and efforts toward recovery prove to be genuine?

Each time I’ve had a “time stands still”, life-changing and gut-wrenching discovery, I’ve doubled down on researching better programs for him. This past discovery it was clear to me, “I’m done trying to do something I have no control over”. I looked for a trauma intensive for me and found Trish’s “Here I Am Becoming” trauma retreat. I am also worth my time and worth my money – and I made the healing time work for me and will never regret it. Managing life while loving an addict makes me feel like I must be super-human while giving him grace to be uber-human. I found a space with Trish and the women where I could be human; free from educating others about my experience and free to let my body release the pain of carrying too much that is too big for me to carry alone.

The pristine and relaxing environment, the small group of lovely women, the curriculum plus the right-brained art and writing exercises were all so helpful in processing deeper pain and letting it out of my body, in a safe space. The sound bath, drumming, dancing and being with others who understand my brand of pain produced a joy and lightness that surprisingly blooms in the dark in the right circumstances – Trish creates the right circumstances, and I will draw from what I learned and experienced there for my lifetime. It was an added extra to be in a sunny place and to have alone time in the evenings to rest and do whatever I needed for myself. I will end by saying: you are worth your time. You are worth your money. Love yourself first, and if this experience looks helpful and healing for you, make it work~

6-DAY INTENSIVE PARTICIPANT

I have tried many forums to address the hurt caused by my partner’s sexual deception. There was always something missing; a feeling not quite addressed, a wound not recognized, a painful assumption made, or any other forms of invalidation. With Trish, I felt a thorough illumination and washing out of all the painful areas -even ones I hadn’t yet come to recognize. Although it might sound unpleasant to highlight all of the areas of pain we’ve experienced, it was handled so gently by Trish while she simultaneously breathed strength and resilience back into our beings. I feel more whole. I have been seen, I have been encouraged, and this deep dive into what I experienced has begun to set me free. I am so thankful I did this early on in my journey rather than letting these wounds take hold of me. It’s by far the best investment I’ve ever made for myself.

6-DAY INTENSIVE PARTICIPANT

I am so glad that I experienced this course. It was hard to go through, but in a good way. Emotions and feelings that I held deep down for years were able to come up and be processed. Trish created a space where I felt heard, understood and supported. I can’t imagine going through this healing experience with any other guide. Trish was full of knowledge and wisdom and loved each of us in a way that was both gentle and strong. I have a new set of tools that I can use as I continue to heal from decades of trauma and integrity abuse. I am most grateful for this experience of feeling validated, seen, connected to other women and secure in myself and my intuition.

8-DAY INTENSIVE PARTICIPANT

Trish’s intensive is very different from the usual format of betrayal trauma workshops. Not only is her content accurate and essential to better understand the impacts of Deceptive Sexuality, Infidelity and Betrayal Trauma, it provides greater access to blocked parts of ourselves and allows us to begin a deeper healing process. The alternation between psychoeducation content and experiences of art therapy, dance, sound baths, somatic exercises, etc., makes this week rich and unique. Furthermore, the term “sister cocoon” could not be better chosen since Trish succeeds in creating a safe space of love, humility, and integrity for these women who are often facing severe traumatic symptoms due to this deep betrayal and the ripple effect of it.

6-DAY INTENSIVE PARTICIPANT
Trish and the Here I Am Becoming workshop have had a profound impact on my healing. There were parts of my experience that I had been unable to access, hold, and truly process and incorporate. Rather, I would alternate between rumination and trigger responses or disconnecting from my awareness as a form of dissociation. Thanks to Trish, her presence, and her method, I can now allow myself to integrate my full story, the emotions, and the lessons, and begin to move forward with more clarity. I wholeheartedly recommend working with Trish!
4-DAY INTENSIVE PARTICIPANT

Finding Trish and attending her 4-day psychoeducation intensive webinar: Here I am Becoming/The Sisterhood, was life changing! It was such a beautiful safe space to be with other woman, all going through the unimaginable hurt of betrayal. Trish was professional, compassionate and knowledgeable on guiding me through the process, both as a group and individually. Trish provided an amazing, creative experience which left me feeling empowered, supported, and started me on the pathway to healing and truly loving myself.

4-DAY INTENSIVE PARTICIPANT

Trish cares deeply about those in the workshop. She created a safe and engaging space; although virtual, we felt supported. Over 30 years, I’ve had good therapists help with three difficult periods in my life. Yet, NO ONE has helped me tap into my deepest psyche, soothe my heart and soul, or show me vulnerabilities I didn’t see before. Trish Haight helped me feel heard and held in the throes of betrayal trauma. She taught group members how to begin healing. I highly recommend her workshops.

6-DAY INTENSIVE PARTICIPANT

Trish was like a guardian angel who appeared in my life during the worst crisis I could ever imagine. During the virtual workshop I learned how to name what was happening to me and also had the opportunity to express what I felt through therapeutic writing and art exercises. The work we did really helped crack me open in order to examine the most painful and frightening parts of my experience in a supportive and sacred space. I am immensely grateful to Trish and the other participants for joining and supporting me on this journey.

COUPLE THERAPY CLIENT

Trish has helped us find a way forward together that feels connected to the reasons we got married in the first place. She has helped us confront difficult conversations with grace and kindness and both held space for each of us while pushing us to better versions of ourselves. We have more empathy, connection, and appreciation for each other now than ever before. It has lead to a deeper, lasting love.

8-DAY INTENSIVE PARTICIPANT

It was an honor and privilege to attend the Here I am Becoming, Sacred Sister Cocoon with Trish Haight. The topic of betrayal trauma felt complex, overwhelming, and heavy, so I was amazed when I found myself sharing and exploring at a deep level that I didn’t think was possible. On day one I was already feeling safe enough to tell the basic details of my story and at the end of the day when I said, “I can’t believe how deep we went today”, Trish said: “Oh we will be going much deeper.” I didn’t imagine I could go so much deeper. But, of course, we did. Trish created a container that was so nurturing and safe that I found myself excavating feelings and emotions that I had never identified or named before. I felt freedom of self-expression when I learned new vocabulary and language for my past experiences. Trish helped me and the entire group navigate intense and vulnerable territory in creative ways and I found myself laughing and crying and drumming and dancing and painting and forming beautiful bonds with my self and the other participants. I can’t recommend Trish’s intensive enough. Trish is a ninja healer with a huge myriad of skills and gifts. I will be forever grateful that I attended her intensive.

6-DAY WORKSHOP PARTICIPANT

The Here I Am Becoming: The Sister Course, has transformed my healing journey. As the target of ongoing betrayal trauma and integrity abuse, it is profoundly difficult to stumble toward enlightenment alone. Trish creates a sacred cocoon of sisters with like-shattered hearts and she enfolds them in a consecrated sanctuary of empathy and understanding. There are too few therapists who truly understand this deep wound and are able to validate the enormity of the destruction it does to us and our family. The breadth and depth of this Intensive led us to the hallowed ground of our own personal truth and justice. My husband’s choices destroyed our marriage but he did not destroy my spirit and I left this Intensive stronger and more resilient than I’ve ever been in my life. Trish is a divine guardian angel for those who have been desecrated by their partner and she holds the sanctity of who you are with profound reverence and grace. Her unending well of compassion and her fierce determination to guide us in healing the torment imposed on our womanhood was truly a balm to our overwhelmed souls. This Intensive provides a clear path to the reclamation of your authentic self and the restoration of your inner brilliance and light.

6-DAY INTENSIVE PARTICIPANT
The Here I Am Becoming: The Sister Course group intensive with Trish was truly transformative. Trish creates an incredibly safe and nurturing space, allowing for deep self-exploration and healing. Through her wisdom, guidance, and compassionate presence, I was able to begin reclaiming my power after betrayal trauma, shifting from pain and confusion to clarity and strength. The group experience was equally powerful—being surrounded by others on a similar journey fostered connection, understanding, and a profound sense of belonging. This intensive isn’t just about healing; it’s about stepping into the fullest, most empowered version of yourself. I cannot recommend it highly enough for anyone ready to break free and embrace their own becoming.
8-DAY INTENSIVE PARTICIPANT

I wish I had never been in a position to know Trish or need this intensive, but with that said, I can’t imagine anyone better suited to guide betrayed partners on this healing journey. I sought out Trish a little over a year after discovery, feeling stuck and hopeless. I knew I didn’t want to remain buried in this trauma forever, but I lacked the tools and knowledge to move through it and toward healing.

From our very first conversation, Trish was overwhelmingly understanding and kind, instantly putting me at ease. Her deep knowledge of trauma, combined with her extraordinary empathy, created a safe environment that allowed for gentle navigation through these painful experiences.

Over the course of seven days, Trish created a true sanctuary that allowed for processing and healing. I didn’t have to think about or plan anything—she provided every material needed and ensured a comfortable, relaxing, and organized environment. Thoughtful music filled the air, we had opportunities to gather and time to be alone if needed, and a calming salt pool with fountains added to the tranquility of the space. The opportunity for expression and repair through drumming, art, writing, poetry, and other right-brain activities (even a sound bath!) was profoundly healing. Trish nourished not only my soul but also my body, providing delicious meals and having yummy snacks available at all times.

I left the intensive with new tools and resources for my healing journey, a renewed sense of hope for the future, and a clear plan of action to continue processing and moving through my trauma. I also left with a lifelong and heartfelt appreciation for Trish and the work she does; I already know she has been instrumental in my life and essential to my healing.

IN-PERSON INTENSIVE PARTICIPANT

I attended the intensive with Trish during a time of great despair. I was feeling extremely invalidated in my process of betrayal trauma, and was met with provider after provider who did not truly and fully understand the experience and the needs of someone going through it.

Trish felt like an absolute miracle and she provided the hope and expertise I desperately needed in an incredibly difficult time. Trish and the women in the group gave me the space, understanding, and validation that is so important when going through this.

We all joked that we were calling the intensive a “retreat” but it certainly was not! As Trish will explain to anyone considering this, this is a very intense process, and you will be fully immersed in it for the week. I am out of state so I stayed in a hotel, and I think this was vital for my experience as going back to my home/child/partner would’ve been very difficult with the feelings I was processing each night after the day with Trish.

Trish is kind, compassionate, knowledgeable, and extremely talented at what she does. She fully opens herself to the women during the experience. I felt so safe and cared for throughout the experience and beyond. So grateful I was able to find and attend this intensive! At the end of the week, the intensive had given me a true retreat.

INDIVIDUAL THERAPY CLIENT

I was truly fortunate to have found Trish at what was an all-time low in my life. I was trapped in a toxic marriage to man who physically and emotionally abused me, and verbally abused my children. I was lost and afraid, unable to see the path forward. Trish immediately gave me a sense of security and understanding that allowed me to trust her enough to begin unpacking the layers of pain that my life had become. She also gently but clearly helped me set boundaries, see the truth for what it really was, and eventually find the strength to leave for good. And that was just the beginning, although I didn’t realize it at the time. I still had so much more to understand and heal within myself from years of trauma. Every step of the way, Trish has been empowering, empathetic, compassionate, and wise. She’s an innovator and scholar in a space that is still not well understood. Her clarity and process have allowed me over time to forgive myself, understand the complexities of abuse so that I never fall prey to them again, and most of all, find the peace and psychological freedom to continue to build a new life for myself and my family. Trish is a powerful guide, teacher, and resource. To me, “invaluable” is the word that best sums her up.

8-DAY INTENSIVE PARTICIPANT

This in-person intensive was a powerful and life-saving experience for me. The impact of betrayal runs deep. Loss of self; the life you thought you had; your relationship; and your sanity all are impacted. The shock can be so debilitating that getting out of bed is nearly impossible. I know this far too well. I had two huge betrayals in my adult life and one of the reasons I am still on this planet is because of Trish’s work. She saved my life both times.

Trish has provided me with strategies to mitigate the impact of intrusive thoughts; understand the abuse that was inflicted on me; and reclaim hope. Through her intensives she also builds a supportive sisterhood to help you feel less alone. Trish is professional; kind; extremely intelligent and intuitively knows how to best support her clients. Her individual work is second to none and her intensives provide a safe space for everyone to share; grieve; love and heal. If you are lucky enough to have the opportunity to work with her in any capacity – do not hesitate.

8-DAY INTENSIVE PARTICIPANT

Trish’s intensive in Los Angeles was a life changing experience. For the first time since learning about my husband’s infidelity over a year and a half ago, I felt seen and validated. Trish is literally an angel on earth. She is the most compassionate and loving therapist I’ve ever met. Not only did she care for our groups’ emotional needs, she nourished our bodies and held space in a way that I’ve never experienced before. As a group, we laughed, cried, danced, painted, wrote poetry, and we formed a bond that I carried with me when I flew back home to Washington State.

Although I’ve been in therapy for over 25 years, I’ve never done group therapy, and I can’t imagine a more supportive environment to process the trauma experienced with other women who are going through the same thing.

I wish there were a thousand more Trishes in this world to care for women going through the heart wrenching experience of betrayal trauma and integrity abuse. She lifted me up and showed me that even though I felt broken, I can also still feel love.

INDIVIDUAL THERAPY CLIENT
I was fragile and shaken by the complex emotional and physical traumas I experienced. I questioned myself at every turn, and could barely imagine trusting anyone ever again. Trish educated me about the nuances of what I had experienced and helped me to identify patterns and triggers to change tracks as I moved out of that painful experience and into a more balanced, stable, calm place. Trish helped me retrieve parts of myself that I lost. I sometimes can’t believe I found Trish because she is this off the charts combination of knowledge, experience and skill that is gently but powerfully cast throughout our sessions in ways that feel gentle, compassionate, loving, healing and absolutely powerful. Trish is deep and real – and also has an incredible sense of humor! I feel so fortunate to be able to heal with her.
INDIVIDUAL THERAPY CLIENT
When I first started my journey with Trish, I was struggling to navigate the complex aftermath of trauma. Looking back now, after many years of working together, I can confidently say that her guidance, support & expertise have been transformative in ways I never thought possible. Trish’s influence on my life has been profound, helping me not just to heal from my past, but to thrive in my present and look forward to my future with hope and confidence. If you’re seeking a trauma therapist who can guide you towards genuine healing and personal growth, I wholeheartedly recommend Trish.
INDIVIDUAL THERAPY CLIENT

I have been seeing Trish for almost 4 years, now. It was on the tail-end of a divorce that was emotionally one of the most painful experiences I have ever had. The first 2 years working with Trish, I saw her weekly. She has helped me metabolize my pain and experience in a deep way that I could never have foreseen, helping me to shed healing light on long-neglected pieces of myself. I came to her with a crushed and bleeding heart, and she has walked me through the process of reviving it through gentle, deliberate tending and transformation, helping me to caringly and compassionately dissect my experience- the divorce, and many others- in a way that has empowered me to alchemize it. Trish asked me once, “Do you want a love story, or a life story?” These past years, with Trish’s guidance, so many fractured parts of myself have undergone healing and growth, and the result has been a life that would have been hard to envision three years ago. I have found new horizons of creative and professional fulfilment and opportunity, alongside a relationship that is healthy and wholesome beyond anything I have ever experienced or imagined. Words can’t do my gratitude justice, but I hope they give some idea of what Trish does.

8-DAY INTENSIVE PARTICIPANT

I am so grateful to have been part of this incredible intensive and couldn’t imagine doing it with anyone else. Trish is an absolute treasure. The intensive far exceeded my expectations and that is because of the loving support, care, compassion and thoughtfully designed program for each person. Having the support of other women was crucial and together we listened, cried and laughed together. Trish makes the cocoon so safe and special. The intensive will illuminate everything that you are experiencing with clarity and this is something each one of us is seeking. I have 3 new sisters from this to lean on. Thank you Trish for being at the forefront of this trauma and being there in the most beautiful way. I know each one of us walked away feeling stronger.

8-DAY INTENSIVE PARTICIPANT

Trish has created a much needed space where women who find themselves in this devastating and often isolating situation can feel held, seen, and heard. The skills learned are invaluable, and make the impossible seem possible. She welcomes you and meets you wherever you are, wraps her arms around you with her wisdom and care, and gives you tools to start the process of healing. If you come in feeling broken, you leave with the knowledge of how to begin putting the pieces together. She will take a group of women who feel like their whole world has caved in, guide and educate them with passionate empathy, and send them out into the world with a new set of wings.

I came into her course not knowing what to expect. I didn’t care. I just knew I needed help and I was desperate. What I experienced and left with is more than I could have ever hoped for. My first day was a wreck, I had zero support at home- but I quickly found strength in my fellow women warriors, with Trish at the helm of it all. In just five days, I was transformed. As the workshop came to a close, I could breathe deeper, stand taller, even laugh again – things that felt so distant and unreachable on Day 1.

I owe immense gratitude to Trish for providing such a sacred and empowering space, for helping me find the woman I used to be and loved so much, for sharing her beautiful talent for guidance, and for being a light in the darkest times of my life. Thank you, Trish. You are an absolute Gift.

6-DAY INTENSIVE PARTICIPANT

Trish and her Here I Am Becoming workshop have given me life. Over the course of six days, she led us through the stages of deceptive sexuality and its impact with skill and tender care: I now have the language and framework I have sought and craved for over two decades! But Trish gave us so much more. Our six days flowed with purpose, deepening understanding, a careful, adeptly guided exploration of our own painful stories, the beautiful thread of other women’s voices, new tools and practices to attend to our old story, and hope in pursuing a new one. I feel an expansiveness in me; becoming, indeed.  Not a single minute of our 42 hours together was wasted. I will be forever, profoundly grateful for Trish!

6-DAY INTENSIVE PARTICIPANT

Trish Haight’s 6-day intensive was an amazing experience! She provided a sacred space to learn, process, and begin to heal from betrayal trauma. Her ability to move you through each phase with intentionality, sensitivity, and safety made me feel seen, heard, felt, fully known, and loved for the first time as an adult. As a group, we were able to hold space for each other through sharing, reflection, and connection. Trish was able to weave the complex psychoeducational content with beautiful art, breath work, music, poetry, somatic activities, and other right brain work which helped me to understand, digest, and metabolize the deep trauma and abuse I have endured for over 40 years.

At the end of day 6, I felt empowered with the knowledge, skills, and strategies I need to move forward. Gaining a new sense of self and agency by reclaiming the parts I love about myself and discarding the parts that no longer serve me, I can step into the becoming of my authentic self with purpose and vitality. Healing takes time and although I am not there yet, I know I am on the right path and I am not alone.

Thank you, Trish, for sharing your infinite wisdom, experience, and encouragement on this journey of becoming. Thank you to the ladies in our group, my sisters, for your vulnerability, authenticity, and acceptance. You all left an indelible imprint on my heart and soul.

4-DAY INTENSIVE PARTICIPANT

Trish created a safe space virtually for our 4 day intensive. I received a lot of information to be able to read through later. Trish has curated beautiful images to go along with the deep topics discussed. Trish’s energy is calm, wise and nurturing. She has a gift. I felt seen, known, heard and understood while being cracked open and safely held and exploring the deep weighted wound of injustice. It was a comprehensive, intensive deep dive into the devastating and lonely world of the multi-faceted experiences of trauma related to compulsive entitled sexuality and infidelity and its impact on us as partners. If you are truly ready to work through your losses and explore your resilience and reclaim your personal power, reality and truth this is the program for you! I highly recommend Trish’s workshops.

6-DAY INTENSIVE PARTICIPANT

It was such a blessing to be able to attend Trish’s 6-day intensive.  Trish connected lovingly and authentically with each participant.  She helped me to dig deeply into my emotions and process the grief and trauma I often try to hold at bay in my ineffective attempt to protect myself from pain.  The material is weighty and important, and connecting with other resilient women and finding joy and humor together was so restorative.  I love Trish’s incorporation of both breath and art into every aspect of the program. I intend to take these tools forward with me as I rebuild from the destruction my husband has created in my family.  I arrived in sorrow and fear, but left feeling hopeful, courageous, and confident.

8-DAY INTENSIVE PARTICIPANT

Trish and her profoundly comprehensive therapeutic work are safe harbor from the onslaught of betrayal and its subsequent wasteland of confusion, pain, despair, isolation and reverberating Trauma.

Trish helped me to finally anchor, rebuild and restore. She helped me understand What Happened. After decades of gaslighting, manipulations, and emotional assault, she brought clear light, deep care, and real healing. Trish adeptly uses a multitude of techniques to compassionately confront the complexities of betrayal trauma, while helping release its root adhesions to both psyche and body.

This Intensive has been a crucial piece to my healing process. I was extremely isolated. To be with other women who were also impacted by betrayal trauma, was an incredible gift. The freedom to share without shame, to support one another, and to again experience deep trust, created a bulwark of strength I sorely lacked before the Intensive.

Trish brilliantly and compassionately tends to each individual in the group setting, that also ignites a profound collective healing. My life is profoundly richer for it. If any woman is suffering from betrayal trauma and has the opportunity to attend one of Trish’s Group Intensives, I urgently recommend they take advantage of this extraordinary lifeline opportunity.  Thank you Trish!

6-DAY INTENSIVE PARTICIPANT

Taking Trish’s intensive was a magical and healing experience, to say the least. There were so many synchronicities – some as simple as butterflies outside the window and butterfly cards gifted to us by a fellow student. Others were more profound such as three nieces (one from each of us) born within 3 days of each other, with 3 candles set out and lit for each one. The material itself is the most comprehensive material I’ve ever come across in regards to physical, psychological, emotional, spiritual, and societal impacts of Sexual Addiction, and in particular on partners and families. As we moved through the material, Trish paid careful attention to how each member of our group responded. This woman has mastered the craft of attunement. She noticed the subtle nuances such as a change in breath or eyes glazing over from disassociation, to more obvious trauma responses like involuntary muscle spasms in the face or head. I am forever grateful for the opportunity to be seen and held as I confronted this life-altering wound in the safety of this container (the course). Thank you, Trish, for this innovative work that paves the way for restorative, informational, and relational justice for so many women going through and struggling to thrive beyond this trauma.

4-DAY INTENSIVE PARTICIPANT
I knew I needed help to dive deeper into my body and healing. Although I had done so much work, I felt in my gut there was more – my heart was open to it. This 4 day intensive gave me the opportunity to go deep to release trauma that I had stored in my body and soul and work with it in a caring and open way. With the help of Trish, and the wonderful women in our intensive, I felt whatever arose, held it and came out the other side. Again and again. Yes, I got a lot of information that was helpful, but for me, the true value of the workshop was to feel held, and to hold other women just like me in a loving circle. Sometimes we feel so alone. Only a leader with deep integrity, intuition, wisdom and somatic understanding could lead such a group. We were invited to hold ourselves and each other in understanding and empathy. Slow down. Breathe deeply. Listen with our whole selves as Trish took us deeper. I am forever grateful.
6-DAY INTENSIVE PARTICIPANT

I feel truly filled by the past 6 days. Trish held us with so much love as she worked with us. She carried us with such wisdom and kindness, creating the most beautiful shared experience of love, safety, and hope, woven with each woman’s personal and unique individual processing and insights. I feel changed by the connection formed through the true vulnerability that each deeply beautiful woman shared. For myself, I feel a connection to my heart, an ability to hold my heart going forward as I continue to process all that has happened, and trust in myself and the path to future beauty, happiness, and internal richness. I also feel a new felt sense of how to hold space for others and really be with them as they share. It gives me hope that I will be more connected to other humans again, more deeply than before and from a place of being deeply centered and grounded in myself. Leaving these 6 beautiful days, I feel filled up connected, and hopeful.

6-DAY INTENSIVE PARTICIPANT

I am so grateful I was able to be part of the 6-day intensive. Trish has a way of being able to hold space for everyone simultaneously, and tap into each of us like she can see directly into our soul! She has given me so much I didn’t even know I was missing. My voice, permission to unlock my heart, and led me to a path of healing I was running from. I was so damaged from all the years of betrayal and pain, I could never imagine there is hope for me, there IS a path to healing. Trish with her infinite patience, kindest heart and wisdom literally led me to a place of empowerment, uncovered my buried voice, and gave me the confidence to be vulnerable. Being there with her and the other woman for 6 days, was life changing and I am looking forward and ready to continue on my healing path.

6-DAY INTENSIVE PARTICIPANT
The 6-day intensive was a transforming experience for me. Omar and Trish have a thorough understanding of the deep fractures betrayal trauma inflicts throughout our bodies and souls. The Minwalla Model holds the detailed knowledge of what we as the betrayed have been experiencing. Trish offers both practical and inspiring ways on how to identify it, say it, feel it, and process through the most raw and cutting emotions. I walked in despondent and hopeless. I left remembering my power and finding myself again. I still have a difficult journey ahead of me, but I have myself back. I believe this program is for the unseen. Those of us lost in our betrayal trauma. Definitely, life changing. Trish is warm, insightful, having brilliant attunement with all of us in attendance. She is truly sagacious and individualized in her approach to our healing journey.
4-DAY INTENSIVE PARTICIPANT
Trish has changed my life! She gave me hope when I had none left. She is the absolute best person to guide you through healing and heartbreak. Her energy, her loving soul and ability to get through to the group and me personally was solid. In the 4-day webinar, and from what I thought not possible, Trish helped me move through the pain, emotions, and tough things that I wasn’t able to work through in years of therapy. Trish is a truly special person, with a gift of helping others in a way I’ve never experienced in my life. I felt heard, safe, understood at a very deep level. She touched my heart and soul, and I feel so blessed and forever grateful for having found her and the 4-day course. Trish has made such an impact on me and my healing journey. I HIGHLY recommend her workshops.