Deceptive Sexuality. Infidelity. Betrayal. These words have a gravity that rips the soul and obliterates trust itself. In the aftermath of discovering deceptive sexuality, it is imperative to consider first the impacts on the betrayed partner; and then widen the lens and see the entirety of it. The rippling of this type of trauma extends […]
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Patricia Haight, A Marriage and Family Therapy Corporation DBA Trish Haight MFT
I wish I had never been in a position to know Trish or need this intensive, but with that said, I can’t imagine anyone better suited to guide betrayed partners on this healing journey. I sought out Trish a little over a year after discovery, feeling stuck and hopeless. I knew I didn’t want to remain buried in this trauma forever, but I lacked the tools and knowledge to move through it and toward healing.
From our very first conversation, Trish was overwhelmingly understanding and kind, instantly putting me at ease. Her deep knowledge of trauma, combined with her extraordinary empathy, created a safe environment that allowed for gentle navigation through these painful experiences.
Over the course of seven days, Trish created a true sanctuary that allowed for processing and healing. I didn’t have to think about or plan anything—she provided every material needed and ensured a comfortable, relaxing, and organized environment. Thoughtful music filled the air, we had opportunities to gather and time to be alone if needed, and a calming salt pool with fountains added to the tranquility of the space. The opportunity for expression and repair through drumming, art, writing, poetry, and other right-brain activities (even a sound bath!) was profoundly healing. Trish nourished not only my soul but also my body, providing delicious meals and having yummy snacks available at all times.
I left the intensive with new tools and resources for my healing journey, a renewed sense of hope for the future, and a clear plan of action to continue processing and moving through my trauma. I also left with a lifelong and heartfelt appreciation for Trish and the work she does; I already know she has been instrumental in my life and essential to my healing.
I attended the intensive with Trish during a time of great despair. I was feeling extremely invalidated in my process of betrayal trauma, and was met with provider after provider who did not truly and fully understand the experience and the needs of someone going through it.
Trish felt like an absolute miracle and she provided the hope and expertise I desperately needed in an incredibly difficult time. Trish and the women in the group gave me the space, understanding, and validation that is so important when going through this.
We all joked that we were calling the intensive a “retreat” but it certainly was not! As Trish will explain to anyone considering this, this is a very intense process, and you will be fully immersed in it for the week. I am out of state so I stayed in a hotel, and I think this was vital for my experience as going back to my home/child/partner would’ve been very difficult with the feelings I was processing each night after the day with Trish.
Trish is kind, compassionate, knowledgeable, and extremely talented at what she does. She fully opens herself to the women during the experience. I felt so safe and cared for throughout the experience and beyond. So grateful I was able to find and attend this intensive! At the end of the week, the intensive had given me a true retreat.
I was truly fortunate to have found Trish at what was an all-time low in my life. I was trapped in a toxic marriage to man who physically and emotionally abused me, and verbally abused my children. I was lost and afraid, unable to see the path forward. Trish immediately gave me a sense of security and understanding that allowed me to trust her enough to begin unpacking the layers of pain that my life had become. She also gently but clearly helped me set boundaries, see the truth for what it really was, and eventually find the strength to leave for good. And that was just the beginning, although I didn’t realize it at the time. I still had so much more to understand and heal within myself from years of trauma. Every step of the way, Trish has been empowering, empathetic, compassionate, and wise. She’s an innovator and scholar in a space that is still not well understood. Her clarity and process have allowed me over time to forgive myself, understand the complexities of abuse so that I never fall prey to them again, and most of all, find the peace and psychological freedom to continue to build a new life for myself and my family. Trish is a powerful guide, teacher, and resource. To me, “invaluable” is the word that best sums her up.
This in-person intensive was a powerful and life-saving experience for me. The impact of betrayal runs deep. Loss of self; the life you thought you had; your relationship; and your sanity all are impacted. The shock can be so debilitating that getting out of bed is nearly impossible. I know this far too well. I had two huge betrayals in my adult life and one of the reasons I am still on this planet is because of Trish’s work. She saved my life both times.
Trish has provided me with strategies to mitigate the impact of intrusive thoughts; understand the abuse that was inflicted on me; and reclaim hope. Through her intensives she also builds a supportive sisterhood to help you feel less alone. Trish is professional; kind; extremely intelligent and intuitively knows how to best support her clients. Her individual work is second to none and her intensives provide a safe space for everyone to share; grieve; love and heal. If you are lucky enough to have the opportunity to work with her in any capacity – do not hesitate.
Trish’s intensive in Los Angeles was a life changing experience. For the first time since learning about my husband’s infidelity over a year and a half ago, I felt seen and validated. Trish is literally an angel on earth. She is the most compassionate and loving therapist I’ve ever met. Not only did she care for our groups’ emotional needs, she nourished our bodies and held space in a way that I’ve never experienced before. As a group, we laughed, cried, danced, painted, wrote poetry, and we formed a bond that I carried with me when I flew back home to Washington State.
Although I’ve been in therapy for over 25 years, I’ve never done group therapy, and I can’t imagine a more supportive environment to process the trauma experienced with other women who are going through the same thing.
I wish there were a thousand more Trishes in this world to care for women going through the heart wrenching experience of betrayal trauma and integrity abuse. She lifted me up and showed me that even though I felt broken, I can also still feel love.
I have been seeing Trish for almost 4 years, now. It was on the tail-end of a divorce that was emotionally one of the most painful experiences I have ever had. The first 2 years working with Trish, I saw her weekly. She has helped me metabolize my pain and experience in a deep way that I could never have foreseen, helping me to shed healing light on long-neglected pieces of myself. I came to her with a crushed and bleeding heart, and she has walked me through the process of reviving it through gentle, deliberate tending and transformation, helping me to caringly and compassionately dissect my experience- the divorce, and many others- in a way that has empowered me to alchemize it. Trish asked me once, “Do you want a love story, or a life story?” These past years, with Trish’s guidance, so many fractured parts of myself have undergone healing and growth, and the result has been a life that would have been hard to envision three years ago. I have found new horizons of creative and professional fulfilment and opportunity, alongside a relationship that is healthy and wholesome beyond anything I have ever experienced or imagined. Words can’t do my gratitude justice, but I hope they give some idea of what Trish does.
I am so grateful to have been part of this incredible intensive and couldn’t imagine doing it with anyone else. Trish is an absolute treasure. The intensive far exceeded my expectations and that is because of the loving support, care, compassion and thoughtfully designed program for each person. Having the support of other women was crucial and together we listened, cried and laughed together. Trish makes the cocoon so safe and special. The intensive will illuminate everything that you are experiencing with clarity and this is something each one of us is seeking. I have 3 new sisters from this to lean on. Thank you Trish for being at the forefront of this trauma and being there in the most beautiful way. I know each one of us walked away feeling stronger.
Trish has created a much needed space where women who find themselves in this devastating and often isolating situation can feel held, seen, and heard. The skills learned are invaluable, and make the impossible seem possible. She welcomes you and meets you wherever you are, wraps her arms around you with her wisdom and care, and gives you tools to start the process of healing. If you come in feeling broken, you leave with the knowledge of how to begin putting the pieces together. She will take a group of women who feel like their whole world has caved in, guide and educate them with passionate empathy, and send them out into the world with a new set of wings.
I came into her course not knowing what to expect. I didn’t care. I just knew I needed help and I was desperate. What I experienced and left with is more than I could have ever hoped for. My first day was a wreck, I had zero support at home- but I quickly found strength in my fellow women warriors, with Trish at the helm of it all. In just five days, I was transformed. As the workshop came to a close, I could breathe deeper, stand taller, even laugh again – things that felt so distant and unreachable on Day 1.
I owe immense gratitude to Trish for providing such a sacred and empowering space, for helping me find the woman I used to be and loved so much, for sharing her beautiful talent for guidance, and for being a light in the darkest times of my life. Thank you, Trish. You are an absolute Gift.
Trish and her Here I Am Becoming workshop have given me life. Over the course of six days, she led us through the stages of deceptive sexuality and its impact with skill and tender care: I now have the language and framework I have sought and craved for over two decades! But Trish gave us so much more. Our six days flowed with purpose, deepening understanding, a careful, adeptly guided exploration of our own painful stories, the beautiful thread of other women’s voices, new tools and practices to attend to our old story, and hope in pursuing a new one. I feel an expansiveness in me; becoming, indeed. Not a single minute of our 42 hours together was wasted. I will be forever, profoundly grateful for Trish!
Trish Haight’s 6-day intensive was an amazing experience! She provided a sacred space to learn, process, and begin to heal from betrayal trauma. Her ability to move you through each phase with intentionality, sensitivity, and safety made me feel seen, heard, felt, fully known, and loved for the first time as an adult. As a group, we were able to hold space for each other through sharing, reflection, and connection. Trish was able to weave the complex psychoeducational content with beautiful art, breath work, music, poetry, somatic activities, and other right brain work which helped me to understand, digest, and metabolize the deep trauma and abuse I have endured for over 40 years.
At the end of day 6, I felt empowered with the knowledge, skills, and strategies I need to move forward. Gaining a new sense of self and agency by reclaiming the parts I love about myself and discarding the parts that no longer serve me, I can step into the becoming of my authentic self with purpose and vitality. Healing takes time and although I am not there yet, I know I am on the right path and I am not alone.
Thank you, Trish, for sharing your infinite wisdom, experience, and encouragement on this journey of becoming. Thank you to the ladies in our group, my sisters, for your vulnerability, authenticity, and acceptance. You all left an indelible imprint on my heart and soul.
Trish created a safe space virtually for our 4 day intensive. I received a lot of information to be able to read through later. Trish has curated beautiful images to go along with the deep topics discussed. Trish’s energy is calm, wise and nurturing. She has a gift. I felt seen, known, heard and understood while being cracked open and safely held and exploring the deep weighted wound of injustice. It was a comprehensive, intensive deep dive into the devastating and lonely world of the multi-faceted experiences of trauma related to compulsive entitled sexuality and infidelity and its impact on us as partners. If you are truly ready to work through your losses and explore your resilience and reclaim your personal power, reality and truth this is the program for you! I highly recommend Trish’s workshops.
It was such a blessing to be able to attend Trish’s 6-day intensive. Trish connected lovingly and authentically with each participant. She helped me to dig deeply into my emotions and process the grief and trauma I often try to hold at bay in my ineffective attempt to protect myself from pain. The material is weighty and important, and connecting with other resilient women and finding joy and humor together was so restorative. I love Trish’s incorporation of both breath and art into every aspect of the program. I intend to take these tools forward with me as I rebuild from the destruction my husband has created in my family. I arrived in sorrow and fear, but left feeling hopeful, courageous, and confident.
Trish and her profoundly comprehensive therapeutic work are safe harbor from the onslaught of betrayal and its subsequent wasteland of confusion, pain, despair, isolation and reverberating Trauma.
Trish helped me to finally anchor, rebuild and restore. She helped me understand What Happened. After decades of gaslighting, manipulations, and emotional assault, she brought clear light, deep care, and real healing. Trish adeptly uses a multitude of techniques to compassionately confront the complexities of betrayal trauma, while helping release its root adhesions to both psyche and body.
This Intensive has been a crucial piece to my healing process. I was extremely isolated. To be with other women who were also impacted by betrayal trauma, was an incredible gift. The freedom to share without shame, to support one another, and to again experience deep trust, created a bulwark of strength I sorely lacked before the Intensive.
Trish brilliantly and compassionately tends to each individual in the group setting, that also ignites a profound collective healing. My life is profoundly richer for it. If any woman is suffering from betrayal trauma and has the opportunity to attend one of Trish’s Group Intensives, I urgently recommend they take advantage of this extraordinary lifeline opportunity. Thank you Trish!
Taking Trish’s intensive was a magical and healing experience, to say the least. There were so many synchronicities – some as simple as butterflies outside the window and butterfly cards gifted to us by a fellow student. Others were more profound such as three nieces (one from each of us) born within 3 days of each other, with 3 candles set out and lit for each one. The material itself is the most comprehensive material I’ve ever come across in regards to physical, psychological, emotional, spiritual, and societal impacts of Sexual Addiction, and in particular on partners and families. As we moved through the material, Trish paid careful attention to how each member of our group responded. This woman has mastered the craft of attunement. She noticed the subtle nuances such as a change in breath or eyes glazing over from disassociation, to more obvious trauma responses like involuntary muscle spasms in the face or head. I am forever grateful for the opportunity to be seen and held as I confronted this life-altering wound in the safety of this container (the course). Thank you, Trish, for this innovative work that paves the way for restorative, informational, and relational justice for so many women going through and struggling to thrive beyond this trauma.
I knew I needed help to dive deeper into my body and healing. Although I had done so much work, I felt in my gut there was more – my heart was open to it. This 4 day intensive gave me the opportunity to go deep to release trauma that I had stored in my body and soul and work with it in a caring and open way. With the help of Trish, and the wonderful women in our intensive, I felt whatever arose, held it and came out the other side. Again and again. Yes, I got a lot of information that was helpful, but for me, the true value of the workshop was to feel held, and to hold other women just like me in a loving circle. Sometimes we feel so alone. Only a leader with deep integrity, intuition, wisdom and somatic understanding could lead such a group. We were invited to hold ourselves and each other in understanding and empathy. Slow down. Breathe deeply. Listen with our whole selves as Trish took us deeper. I am forever grateful.
I feel truly filled by the past 6 days. Trish held us with so much love as she worked with us. She carried us with such wisdom and kindness, creating the most beautiful shared experience of love, safety, and hope, woven with each woman’s personal and unique individual processing and insights. I feel changed by the connection formed through the true vulnerability that each deeply beautiful woman shared. For myself, I feel a connection to my heart, an ability to hold my heart going forward as I continue to process all that has happened, and trust in myself and the path to future beauty, happiness, and internal richness. I also feel a new felt sense of how to hold space for others and really be with them as they share. It gives me hope that I will be more connected to other humans again, more deeply than before and from a place of being deeply centered and grounded in myself. Leaving these 6 beautiful days, I feel filled up connected, and hopeful.
I am so grateful I was able to be part of the 6-day intensive. Trish has a way of being able to hold space for everyone simultaneously, and tap into each of us like she can see directly into our soul! She has given me so much I didn’t even know I was missing. My voice, permission to unlock my heart, and led me to a path of healing I was running from. I was so damaged from all the years of betrayal and pain, I could never imagine there is hope for me, there IS a path to healing. Trish with her infinite patience, kindest heart and wisdom literally led me to a place of empowerment, uncovered my buried voice, and gave me the confidence to be vulnerable. Being there with her and the other woman for 6 days, was life changing and I am looking forward and ready to continue on my healing path.
The 6-day intensive was a transforming experience for me. Omar and Trish have a thorough understanding of the deep fractures betrayal trauma inflicts throughout our bodies and souls. The Minwalla Model holds the detailed knowledge of what we as the betrayed have been experiencing. Trish offers both practical and inspiring ways on how to identify it, say it, feel it, and process through the most raw and cutting emotions. I walked in despondent and hopeless. I left remembering my power and finding myself again. I still have a difficult journey ahead of me, but I have myself back. I believe this program is for the unseen. Those of us lost in our betrayal trauma. Definitely, life changing. Trish is warm, insightful, having brilliant attunement with all of us in attendance. She is truly sagacious and individualized in her approach to our healing journey.
Trish has changed my life! She gave me hope when I had none left. She is the absolute best person to guide you through healing and heartbreak. Her energy, her loving soul and ability to get through to the group and me personally was solid. In the 4-day webinar, and from what I thought not possible, Trish helped me move through the pain, emotions, and tough things that I wasn’t able to work through in years of therapy. Trish is a truly special person, with a gift of helping others in a way I’ve never experienced in my life. I felt heard, safe, understood at a very deep level. She touched my heart and soul, and I feel so blessed and forever grateful for having found her and the 4-day course. Trish has made such an impact on me and my healing journey. I HIGHLY recommend her workshops.
